Aged just 18, Tom left his UK home to study economics at Erasmus University Rotterdam (EUR). ‘I was questioning the traditional path people follow,’ he explains. ‘I wanted a more enriching international experience, and realised I could only get that from moving abroad.’
He describes his undergraduate years as a rite of passage. ‘Traditionally, a university gives people the skills to get a job, and to become independent. But education is more than that,’ he says. ‘A university should help people to find their authentic selves. EUR ignited my personal growth. I met people from all over the world, and they broadened my horizons.’
After graduation, Tom followed the MSc Management of Innovation at RSM, and says the school’s vision to make a positive change fitted perfectly with his own goals. ‘One lecturer – Dr Murat Tarakci – was more a facilitator of self-development than just a teacher. He only spoke for 30 per cent of the class, and spent the rest of the time sparking discussion. He thought the best way to learn was by debating and challenging each other’s opinions.’
It also helped that Tom’s classmates were as passionate as he was about changing the world. ‘As a result, rather than studying individually in the library, we sat together and helped each other, discussing concepts we had.’
Tom believes everyone has a unique combination of talents, and says seeing that potential go unfulfilled is what motivates him to help people. ‘There are people at all levels from all backgrounds who are very successful by every conventional measure, but they aren’t happy. That frustrates me,’ he says. ‘If everyone used their talents to do something they cared about, it would give them fulfilment and bring about societal advances. Moreover, the world would be a better place.
‘People suffer burnouts,’ he continues, ‘because they spend too long doing things they don’t care about. That wouldn’t happen if people were more engaged. Students often don’t know what they want from life. Unleashing their sense of purpose could have an incredible impact.’
Driving change through purpose
Tom’s master was about driving change within organisations, and he applies the same theory to personal development. ‘After all, an organisation is just a collection of people,’ he points out. ‘To drive change you have to change people and give them purpose. It’s cultural. It’s also what I’d like to teach my future children: to help them believe they can adapt and learn anything they set their minds to.’
In Tom’s definition, purpose is the energy and sense of belonging that comes from doing something you like, and fulfilment is the end result of this. ‘It’s that sense of satisfaction in reaching a balance in your life between career, family and friendships, and the sense that your desires are in line with your reality.’
And to find purpose and fulfilment, Tom says you first need belief. ‘You have to believe you are worthy of living a fulfilled life, and that work can be something that excites you. You also have to set your own definitions of success, and be aware of your talents and what you enjoy.’
You also have to reflect on what energises you and what impact you want to make. ‘We get people to visualise themselves living their passion. Subconsciously, they will then see opportunities for making that a reality. I once drew a picture of me speaking in front of a crowd, talking about a subject I was passionate about. Three years later I hosted an event at the Rotterdam Ahoy convention centre in front of 5,000 people.’
Nevertheless, to realise personal goals you also need the right tools, and Tom believes one vital skill is public speaking. ‘A lot of young people have great ideas, but if they can’t express them to convince an audience, their ideas might as well not exist,’ he says.
Tom has big ambitions for Extraordinary Life. ‘We set out to give people the tools and mindset to achieve success. But my real vision is to evolve the very purpose of work, to make it something that energises people and is something they believe in.’ He thinks the best way to achieve this is not to give sessions and talks, but to collaborate with others to create an international movement.
With that in mind, he would also love to hear from anyone who wants to start a dialogue about how to shape the movement together. ‘I feel fulfilled and excited by the impact we’re having and the path I’m on,’ Tom explains. ‘But I’m always focused on making an impact on more people.’
How many people exactly? ‘I think one billion is the new one million. I’d love to achieve that,’ he says. ‘It won’t be easy, but it’s not unreasonable in today’s world. If “Gangnam Style” can reach one billion views on YouTube, why can’t we achieve something similar?’